Friday, November 18, 2011

If we are not driven to compete, will the sexdrive also diminish? Equal Money- FAQ

            What drives the ‘sex drive' in our current reality? Or better yet, how does the context of our current reality permeate everything we do (including our quest for sex), because it’s all we know?

            The context of our current reality is survival, competition, power/domination, and ego. Have a look at how these concepts relate to sex and/or the sex-drive.

With regards to survival, consider the need to pay one’s way to survive- sex is bought and sold as a commodity wherein many men and women sell their bodies in order to buy food, shelter and clothing. In another form of survival, men and women seek wealthy or wealthier partners to marry in order to have financial security, which is another form of prostitution, wherein security in the form of ‘securing one’s place’ in the world, is given in return for a sexual relationship.

There’s also the concept of spreading one’s seed as procreation in order to have the bloodline and DNA survive past the death of the creator, whether it’s a conscious choice or not, to carry the family name and genetic traits- survival of the fittest. We can also consider giving birth to many children to have extra hands in order to work and provide for the survival of the family, or parents having children to ensure there will be someone there to help them survive in their old age.

These are examples of sex driven by survival, which are fear-based and demonstrate very little, if any regard for the quality of the relationship between the two beings involved- there is no certainty that it is an arrangement made within mutual willingness, consent and equality, or whether the dignity, integrity and honour of both beings is taken into consideration at every stage of the act. In an Equal Money System, the need for survival will be removed from our lives and reality because we will be provided for and our futures will be certainties, as the security of the human being will be guaranteed. Children will be born into a world where they will get care when they need it, food when they’re hungry, support in their old age, education, shelter and clothing- all unconditionally as a basic right to life. Sex in an Equal Money System will be a mutual exploration of sexual expression, with no ulterior motives. Physical touch will only be driven by curiosity, innocence and unconditional caring. Therefor the starting point of the sex-drive will change, as no one will ever have to compromise their bodies or sexuality for reasons of survival.

With regards to competition: we are born into a world where our fellow man is our competition. We are taught in school that we must compete with our peers; we must strive to be the best and perform better than the others so we can excel and be noticed in order to compete in the job market. Once employed, we must remain competitive to maintain an endless income for our entire lives. We must also compete for our sexual partners, to get the most beautiful, the most successful, the most popular, the hottest, the sexiest and the richest. We must try to be beautiful and sexy, rich and successful in order to compete for the best mates. The sexual relationship which is produced by this type of reality does not generally take into account who the being is first and foremost. This type of relationship is fraught with judgment, judgment which is created by the external environment which changes from place to place and within time. This fluctuation indicates that these judgment based-decisions are not based on anything real, but rather superficial externalities which are shallow and devoid of the foundational support required to support each other to experience the personal growth and self-expansion. In an EMS competition among beings will be removed and replaced with equality, therefore the drive for sex will be a part of this personal growth and expansion which will be a shared self-intimacy of unlimited depth between beings, and not a shallow and unstable competitive drive in a world of constant and increasing competition.

Power and domination find their place within the sex drive when a man is driven by his superiority over a woman, to dominate and have power over her physically or psychologically. Or when a woman uses her sexuality to manipulate a man ‘like putty in her hands’, wherein she takes advantage of him with her sexual prowess, in a form of power or domination, to have him do for her as she pleases. Power and domination can also be played out within ‘mind games’. Superiority and inferiority can be established within an intellectual capacity and carry over into the sexual aspect of the relationship.
Power and domination are very much inherent in our current systems- the behavior of states on an international level is created by the behavior of individuals, like a magnification of what mankind has accepted and allowed itself to be and become. Unfettered use of power and dominance without any moral or principled restraint is the behavior we are exposed to in so many ways, it is what we know and are taught as the rules of this reality, where it is ok for one state to rape a weaker state of its resources- human or environmental- simply because it can.
In an Equal Money System, this behavior will be seen for what it really is: a disorder and a disease, one that only leads to the reality we see today: one of war, terror, suffering, starvation, rape and murder. This type of disorder will be studied and treated effectively, as resources will not be squirrelled away by the wealthy, but rather distributed equally and diverted to the effective study and treatment of the disorders which today plague humanity and create profit for the powerful and dominant. The desire for sex that is driven by power and domination is abusive in nature and will not be tolerated in an EMS, it will be treated as a dysfunction and any being afflicted will be supported to understand the inherent equality that exists between all beings, wherein no one has to right to have power over, or to dominate, any other being in existence.

A sex-drive based in ego is one which is based in the mind of pictures and images, fetishes and the desire for more. It is the ego that watches porn and feeds its desires through the images and ideas which are created by beings compromising their bodies for profit. Porn-sex is not real, it is not based in anything real and it only serves to manipulate the ego as fantasies of wanting create ‘something more’ out of sex. The egoist desire to have more, to be more, and to create something more than what is actually here or actually present within the act of sex is totally unnecessary- it diminishes the reality of sex, which is two beings, two bodies, two equals sharing simple touch. Sex driven by ego takes place in the mind rather than in the physical, where the act is actually occurring. When one is participating in ego one is not present and aware of the simplicity of the physical act taking place, nor the mutual enjoyment with and of another human being.
In an Equal Money System, ego will have no place as the physical reality will determine what is real, what is relevant and what requires attention. Ego is not real, therefor it is irrelevant. The ego of the individual serves nothing and no one but its own existence, while it consumes and suppresses its human-host. In an Equal Money System we will learn to value the physical and not the ego-based desires which are currently manipulated to drive consumerism. The only real value in the world is the physical reality we exist within, and that reality is willing and able to provide for us all equally. It is the human systems which have been super-imposed on top of this reality which have destroyed our physical environment (including how we treat and perceive our physical body), our oneness with it, our equality to it, and our enjoyment of it.

When one is not driven by survival, competition, power/domination or ego, one's drive for sex can be 'cleared' so to speak, wherein the consideration for the self and the partener are where importance and care are placed. Without all the mind-creadted bullshit, pressure, and the artificial realities, the sex-drive will be better understood, therefore sexual disorders and dysfunction will be understood as well. Maybe then we can stop pumping our bodies full of phsychotic and hormonal drugs, and stop slaughtering innocent and endangered animals as aphrodisiacs to increase sex-drive, maintain an erection or successfully reach climax. In an Equal Money System the abuse of life in this way will not be accepted or allowed, therefore we will instead have to take the time to figure out what it is our bodies are telling us and what they actually want and need, so that we can experience something called sex that is real.

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